Some heartfelt advice.

I sit, and I wonder... a lot.  [I suppose that's what happens when you get pulled out of the daily grind and your not distracted by the mundaneness that makes up most of our day to day lives.] I ponder over the infinite possibilities -the opportunities- that present themselves to us with every passing moment of our finite existence, the love that binds us together and the avarice that threatens to tear us apart, if we allow it.

This cancer that tries to grow within my shell, that tries to kill it, has been a blessing as well as a curse, on so many levels.  I have felt the joy of an outpouring of love and kindness from familiars and strangers alike.  I've had conversations and experiences that I'm sure would not have occurred if not for this "threat" that hangs over my head.  Dare I be thankful for this curse as a result of the joy that has juxtaposed itself with it?  It seems contradictory and yet... on some level I don't think that it can be avoided.  Don't get me wrong, I have known (and felt) the love and joy that we all have and are capable of sharing, long before a Doctor found a "nodule" growing on my prostate, it just seems that it takes some kind of tragedy (or impending one) for us to truly let loose and let those around us know how we really feel, about them and sometimes even ourselves.

I have claimed more than one purpose for this rambling blog of mine; education of men's health, quick and easy updates on my condition for the people who care, a place for me to vent.  Today, I think I'd like to add another...to remind people that love is a verb, not a noun.
When was the last time you, dear reader, told someone close to you that you love them?  Mother, Father, Brother, Sister, Spouse, Children, Friend?  I'll bet it's been awhile, and I think I know why; for some reason that word makes people squirm.  For that discomfort I have no explanation.  Perhaps it reminds us of feelings that we selfishly try to keep to ourselves for fear of appearing weak or vulnerable to others.  [Which is the opposite of how I think it should make us feel]  Whatever the reason for that, my advice to you is quite simple: do it anyway.

You might be surprised at just how good it makes both of you feel.